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Battling Together Alone

*She took a deep breath and looked in the mirror again. Her shape was amazing, but she kept mentally removing the loose skin...again. She's nailed the selfie angles and her most recent makeup work is her best yet. She washes it all off and gets in bed to tell her friends she can't make it because her kids are sick. *He's a handsome black man with so much to offer the world. Pretty sure he's someone's #MCM. Tall, brilliant, clean cut. Great son. Even better dad. He lays in his bachelor pad and cries. He wants to end it, but worries about the aftermath. He wants to tall about it, but worries about the aftermath. *Relationship goals, meme-worthy married couple madly in love. Girls are texting their friends saying they want a love like theirs. He worships the ground she walks on. She glows from his love. They're doing the "right thing" and getting themselves together before becoming parents. If only people knew her body was why they weren't parents y

All it took was makeup...

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For aboot 8 months now, I've been playing in makeup. Yes, my tomboyish, awkward, blind as a bat ass has become a practitioner of the makeups. Why? Always have loved makeup. I just let my low self esteem and frustration convince me that was yet another of my "Bitch, you can't.." list entries..after doing a second 5k but just before sewing. "It isn't for me" was what I told myself for years. I broke bad every blue moon, but it wasn't until my 30th birthday party that I saw the truth. Truth be told, it CAN be for you simply because you want it. Okay, I bet you're wondering "heffa, you damn near 36 now. What the hell happened in that gap?" Glad you asked. I forgot. But what matters NOW is that I'm not ascared. Stay with me, now. Thing is, it took makeup for me to finally get through my thick gauge skull that in order for this makeup to look beautiful on me, my black ass just might have to be beautiful. I know good

A Woman's Worth...aka-More Than $500k, But Not Quite $9.99

Aight Delegation, I won't be before you long because I got to finish clipping my coupons. Mo'nique asked us to boycott Netflix because of the diabolically lowballed offer she received of $500,000. Of course, the memes just made themselves! Personally, I don't think she should take that low level offer. She was WELL within her right to be like "hell no". I've seen a many people say she should've accepted the offer and proved Netflix to be a fool. To THAT, Tam says "no". Regardless of your feels about her, I'm sick of black women having to take a low offer to be accepted, then "prove them wrong". Why the hell can't they just see our worth and govern yoself accordingly? I've read that Netflix paid Amy Schumer more because of her call out about Dave Chappelle and Chris Rock. I mean, we know Amy Schumer is as funny as chipped toenail polish, alas she is controversial...which is how she most likely got what she got. Ri

Aziz Ansari, the Necessary Discussion Nobody Wants to Have

As usual, Delegation, another turd hath hit the oscillating fan. Read up if you haven't already. Go ahead...I'll wait. Now, you're probably thinking the same thing I did. You probably called him trash or were let down by finding out a good guy is a violator. Even if you didn't, Twitter has done it for you. After reading the account from the woman involved on Babe.net, I really had to examine some thoughts on this. I mean, reeeeeeeaaaaally get off Twittah and read her account over and over again. It was when I came to the perspective that this was moreso an awkward encounter than flatfoot rape. I was embarrassed to admit that because in the era of #MeToo (thank you Tawana ), one that I'm unfortunately a member of my damn self, it seemed as if I was NOT in support of a woman. I mean, that's deadass tantamount to TREASON in this motherfucker!!! Thing is, I shole the hell ain't on Aziz's side. Aside from giving me the magnanimous Lena Waithe, his exi

Ginuwine: Transphobic or Nawl

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So this is what happened: (Article can be found heah ) Now, as always, there is a rift as to whether Brother Lumpkin was transphobic nor nawl. Tam's verdict is: Nawl . From the info that I've uncovered on the situation, I didn't catch a vibe of Ginny-Poo being transphobic. If anything, I look at girlfriend sideways and wonder if she is aware of consent and how putting foke on blast isn't fair. I'm very pro-LGBTQA without hesitation, and I've heard so many transwomen tell how hard dating is for them. As a cisgendered woman, I cannot conjure up any parallel stories. All I know is what I've seen and been told. This can be a very prickly topic, and it always, ALWAYS goes downhill. Instead of it being a discussion of preference, it turns into name-calling, transphobia, Bible Thumpage, and a whole lot more shit than necessary. Now...to me, a transwoman is a woman. How she was born isn't of importance to me. I'm aware that peo

Bitterness, aka - Pull Up With a Lemon

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When you think of someone being bitter, what comes to mind? Go ahead..think aboot it whilst I reopen my fridge in hopes of food magically appearing. WELP, what you come up with? *That angry baby mama? *The uncle who ain't been shit since Vietnam? *Your best friend who shoulda played them numbers? Betcha didn't think of a positive example of bitterness, did you? Maybe because like selfishness, anger, jealousy, and some other words I'll conjure up after I hit "submit", bitterness has a negative connotation. Because my ass has a point to prove, I Googled the word. And because my ass is lazy, I did it on my phone. Look at definition number two: "Anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly". As a WHOLE black woman in Trump-Ass America, I'm reminded DAILY of reasons to be bitter. One reason  I have is best explained on a YouTube video of me talking aboot the "Opioid Crisis. Shiiid, I'm bitter aboot being br

Cancellation Culture and Why We Shan't Cosign

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Every 48 to 72 hours, I can gah-raun-tee that SOMEBODY is going to say or do something incorrect. Within a turnaround time of 49 to 73 hours, we will find that human to be cancelled. Now, except for Logan Paul's mophead ass, I think we need to cease and desist with them tricks. Show me a person who hasn't said or done something sideways and I'll show you a saptapper so fake that the rain will make it turn colors. Not one person in this realm is 100% accurate. Hell, even I had to fix my face a many times. One day, I took a moment to read some old blogs and journals. Here's a synopsis of my thoughts and opinions from 10-15 years ago: *Gays should be okay with civil unions *Voting is pointless *Women are responsible for preventing their own sexual assaults *Get a job and stay at that junt forever *You can't be confident if you don't like your weight *Transpeople are confused as gender is binary Now...ha